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Do you give other people compliments? On someone's outfit, hair, glasses..? Been thinking about this and wanted to ask you: What does it look like to compliment what is on the *inside*, not what is on the outside? For example: "There's a lot of courage in what you did yesterday." "You were really kind to that kid just now - that was so lovely to watch." "You have such a good memory!" <--- I say this one often to my 80+year-old mother who thinks she has a terrible memory (this woman remembers more than I do on any given day, which is quite embarrassing to me, but I'll save that for another post). Author Daniel Pink posted about compliments recently, saying that many of us hesitate to give them because we're afraid to. Maybe it will be forced or awkward, or the other person won't care. But the truth, he says, is that: "𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐮𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝." I also think that we "plant seeds" when we compliment in this way. My mom usually dismisses my compliments about her memory, but I know I have planted a seed - a belief - that perhaps, "yes, I DO have a good memory!" I compliment my clients in every coaching session I have. Coaches call this "acknowledging the client". It's not cheerleading, it's simply pointing out something positive that we are noticing. And that something is usually something the client had not thought of - or dismisses. I love bringing these things to light because they usually boost the client's self-esteem and confidence at that moment. And if not in that moment, I know I have planted a seed. 🌱 🌱 🌱 Do you easily give compliments or acknowledgments? What does this look like to you? #compliment #awkward #havecourage #bekind #acknowledgment

Do you ever feel like you are between two things? Maybe it’s two presidents, two careers, two houses... When I’m in that space, I do this: I pretend I’m my cat. Yes, my cat is orange*, but he’s got something here. He often rests in doorways. Half in one space, half in another. Just taking it all in, with no agenda. Are you able to do this? To stand with one foot in one room and one in the other? I challenge you to try this and not think about what is in front of you and all that needs doing in that room - or going back to the other room to find something you just remembered. To be able to live in this liminal space - and be as relaxed as a cat - is a skill that can be cultivated. It’s about being present and being curious. What if I was in-between AND was ok right here, right now, in this present moment? Even if I am worried or anxious, what does it look like to be ok with that worry? 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘄𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲. 𝗠𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗮𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘅 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗶𝘁. Like a cat. What do you do when you are feeling in between two things..? ___ 🔹Who am I? I’m a holistic leadership and empowerment coach dedicated to helping you become more confident so you can have the career and relationships you desire. 🔹I’m also a mentor coach and love helping brand-new coaches with their coaching skills. ✏️ 🔹Want to learn more? Visit my bio or message me - my DMs are always open! 💗 ___ * for the non-cat owners, lore has it that orange cats, ALL orange cats, share 𝗼𝗻𝗲 brain cell... so. 😸 #orangecatsofinstagram #orangecat #liminalspace #caughtbetweentwoworlds #presence #beherenow

I hate it when people force others into a space of inauthentic happiness and cheer. I've had clients who perhaps expect this, even from coaches, and then start crying in a session with me when they realize it's okay not to be happy all the time. The release of energy is profound. It is okay to experience the lower side of the emotional spectrum and to allow space for hurt, sadness, grief, and despair. And when you do, don't forget to BREATHE. A little more from this lovely writing by David Whyte: "Despair is a difficult, beautiful necessary; a binding understanding between human beings caught in a fierce and difficult world where half of our experience is mediated by loss, but it is a season, a wave form passing through the body, not a prison surrounding us. A season left to itself will always move, however slowly, under its own patience, power and volition. "Refusing to despair about despair itself, we can let despair have its own natural life and take a first step onto the foundational ground of human compassion, the ability to see and understand and touch and even speak, the heartfelt grief of another." Excerpt of ‘DESPAIR’ from @davidjwhyte from his book CONSOLATIONS: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words. © David Whyte: REVISED EDITION Many Rivers Press 2020 #emotions #grief #sadness #despair #depression #hope #courage

Had a session with a client today, and they gave me hope for America because they said this: “One thing I’ve been doing this week is reaching out to some friends and family who are upset with the election results. You know, to offer them my support.” This client is a kind, quiet, thoughtful soul who values connections and relationships - even with people with whom they disagree. And for those curious, this client voted for the winner of the presidential race here in the US. (And no, I didn’t ask them which way they voted - I avoid politics in my coaching sessions - they offered this. And if a client offers something I will always listen.) This client was leading with empathy and compassion, something I have not seen a lot of in the past few days here on social media (from both "sides"). It was refreshing! So, after a week of being with many clients who are experiencing the gamut of emotions, I am exhausted, but also feeling content. 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝗽𝗲. Wishing you a beautiful weekend, whatever emotions you are experiencing. 💗 #compassion #hope #empathy #content #emotions #weekendmood #2024elections #kindnessalwayswins

Wednesday, November 6, 2024.